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The Gift of Dirt: Let Them Get Dirty!

Posted by Ron Gilley on Jun 22, 2025 1:00:00 PM

I grew up in the woods. As a boy, if I walked east from my house, I could travel about ten miles crossing one lonely old railroad track, several creeks, the Escambia River, and several thousand acres of forest before coming to another significant sign of civilization, and that was a 500-acre peanut field. I grew up in the woods.

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Topics: Blog Posts, Parenting

The Gift of Failure: Embracing Struggle and Failure for Your Children

Posted by Ron Gilley on Jun 15, 2025 1:00:00 PM

The term “helicopter parents” has been used to describe parents who for the past three decades, give or take a few years, have been over-protective, micro-managing, and sometimes just plain suffocating to their children. It seems helicopter parents don’t want their children to experience hardship or danger or difficulty or failure, and that motivates them to intervene in all aspects of their children’s lives, rushing in at every opportunity to preserve a perfect day.

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Topics: Blog Posts, Parenting

The Gift of a World Larger Than They Are: Finding Their Place in the World

Posted by Ron Gilley on Jun 8, 2025 1:00:00 PM

 We parents are often tempted to idolize our children’s happiness. From the time they are born, we tolerate nothing that makes them cry—not hunger, not boredom, not loneliness. We react immediately to their cries with whatever remedy is necessary. Of course, it is our job to provide for their needs, and babies express those needs by crying; however, babies will eventually grow up. A baby who has never been allowed to experience a moment or two of unhappiness—probably more like an inconvenience—can become an older child, then a teenager, then an adult who has no tolerance for anything that makes him unhappy or inconveniences him. Such a person is impossible to live with, for he acts as if he is sovereign of the world and tramples everyone around him to get what he wants.

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Topics: Blog Posts, Parenting

Five Perfect Gifts for Children

Posted by Ron Gilley on Jun 1, 2025 1:00:00 PM

Summer break provides an opportunity for parents to rest from the routines of the school year and give fresh consideration to the joys of parenting. In this summer series, Mr. Gilley draws upon his experience as a father of two grown sons and grandfather of four to share with us Five Perfect Gifts for Children. Whether this is your first time to enjoy the series or you have enjoyed it before, be encouraged and drink deeply of the wisdom contained within and share it freely with anyone blessed with a "heritage from the Lord." 

We'll begin with a preview of all five gifts and then unpack each individually over the next five weeks. 

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Topics: Blog Posts, Parenting

Six Steps to Prepare Your Child for Kindergarten

Posted by Trinitas on May 4, 2025 3:12:27 PM

Kindergarten has a way of sneaking up on young parents. After all, it seems like just yesterday that you brought your sweet bundle of joy home from the hospital and now she is starting school in the fall. How are parents to know if their child is ready for this huge step? Here are six simple steps to help you answer that question for yourself. But remember, if your child isn’t ready, relax, August is still several months away. There is enough time this summer to get ready, if you have a plan and a willingness to work it.  

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Topics: Blog Posts, Parenting, Parent Involvement

Steady and Thoroughgoing Correction (Part 2)

Posted by Ron Gilley on Apr 28, 2025 1:00:00 PM

Last time out, we ended our discussion with a list of questions. We established the fact that there is no magic in those questions. They are merely questions that leave space for your child to tell his story in a way that he hasn’t even thought of yet. You can think of other questions like these that will help peel back the layers, and you can change them to fit the moment. The point is to get to the sin that motivated the action. For example, striking someone in anger is a sinful behavior, but oftentimes, there is something else motivating that anger and violence, whether pride or envy or covetousness or something else. If we don’t work to get at that sin that is rooted down in the heart, it is going to continue to manifest itself on the surface somehow—this time it was anger and violence, but next time, it could be something different.  

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Topics: Blog Posts, Parenting, Scripture, Christian Education, Parent Involvement, Teaching

Steady and Thoroughgoing Correction (Part 1)

Posted by Ron Gilley on Apr 21, 2025 3:11:08 PM

Picking up the thread from a couple of weeks back, I want to discuss correction a little further. We have talked about what correction is, why we must correct, and why our children don’t always love correction. Now, we’ll examine correction that addresses patterns of sin or even besetting sins in our children's lives.

Sometimes, our children have a bigger problem putting off sin than we had hoped. Perhaps it begins with a single event. We correct and move on. Then the very next week, here we are again in the same situation. Coincidence? Maybe. You correct again and move on. But oh, no! In a matter of days, here we are again. Now, to be fair, there are so many variables here that it’s hard to reduce this to a few brief words. For example, the type of sin dictates how we address it. Is it forgetfulness, gossip, disobedience, disrespect, unkindness, laziness? And there are plenty of other variables, as well, that have a bearing on how we proceed. We can’t get into all those methods here, so we’ll stick to a conversation about principles.  

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Topics: Blog Posts, Parenting, Scripture, Christian Education, Parent Involvement

Love of Correction

Posted by Ron Gilley on Mar 16, 2025 1:00:00 PM

Over the past couple of posts, I have attempted to define biblical correction and to show that God requires it of us. Not only does he require adults to correct ourselves with His word as the standard, but also, He requires us to correct our children, “to put them right,” according to the standard found only in God’s word. Seems like a slam dunk, right? Well, maybe not exactly.

If your children sometimes bristle at correction, or they listen attentively and then go on doing what they were doing, or they give you a thousand excuses for why their behavior was justified and never want to own up to any wrongdoing, or they are compliant when you are near but behave like the devil when you are away, then read on.

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Topics: Blog Posts, Parenting, Scripture, Christian Education, Christian Living, Parent Involvement

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